How to Overcome Adult Sibling Rivalry
Wouldn't it be great to get on with your adult brothers and sisters? Here's how hypnosis can help.
How do you know if adult sibling rivalry is affecting you?
Are you still jealous of your brother’s sports prowess? Do you hate your sister for coming first in class and getting all your parents’ attention?
Are you hurting from the feeling that your parents were more interested in your sibling than in you? Do you wonder why your grown up brothers and sisters still treat you as the ‘baby of the family’? Sibling rivalry is at the root of such feelings.
Adult sibling rivalry can go way back and maybe it haunts you even now. Perhaps you feel your sibling was always the favorite and got more than their fair share of love, attention and even material possessions than you did.
Maybe you feel that your brother or sister got the good the looks and the brains and you know you ‘shouldn’t’, but you can’t help feeling resentful and jealous.
So what is adult sibling rivalry, exactly?
Adult sibling rivalry consists of feelings of intense competition, jealousy, resentment and animosity towards one or more siblings.
The causes of sibling rivalry are multiple. Young children may feel as if they have to fight for their parents’ love and attention. And, even with the best will in the world, parents can find that they just can’t treat each child exactly the same – simply because children are different.
If your sibling was naturally more outgoing than you, then they may have naturally got more attention when growing up.
A bit of sibling rivalry is natural, but when it becomes too intense and the feelings continue into adulthood and influence adult behavior, then it can really start to corrode your well-being, and it’s time to take action.
Childhood labels can stick with you
Children in families often get labeled and these labels can begin to mould how we think, feel, act and behave. For example, one will be the ‘baby of the family’, one the joker, the sensible one, the underachiever, the good looking or clumsy one, and so on.
And if you were seen as ‘the fun but silly one’, while your sibling was ‘the hot shot destined for success’, then it’s not at all surprising that rivalry ensues.
Ultimately, the only person who can remove a label is the person wearing it.
Moving beyond adult sibling rivalry
As we grow into adulthood we expect old sibling rivalries to recede into history. But for some people childhood battles continue to determine emotional responses in adult life.
This is because, unless we actively take steps to avoid it, it’s all too easy for us to slip back into the roles we played as children – with all the same feelings.
Real personal development means growing out of the limiting patterns of childhood, breaking free of residual adult sibling rivalry and truly becoming your own person. And this is where hypnosis can really help you.
How hypnosis can ease sibling rivalry feelings
A first step in escaping the old effects of sibling rivalry is to see what is really going on. To see anything objectively you need to be very calm. Then you can think about things clearly without being overwhelmed by emotions.
Overcome Adult Sibling Rivalry will help you develop this calm perspective.
You will then learn how to move beyond those old feelings and reassert your own individuality. And soon you will be feeling so much better generally about your adult siblings as they lose their power to press your buttons.
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